There aren't many things I can still do for my mom. I help her with her medical issues, because I'm the only one in the family with any medical training. I like to go with her to her medical appointments, so I can keep a tab on what she tells the doctor. She doesn't always tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth, because she has a deep fear of being put into a nursing home at her age. She will lie like crazy if it will help her stay out there on that farm.
My brothers help as much as they can, but Bret is a long haul trucker and is gone sometimes for over a week at a time. He and his fiancée have moved to town and are buying a house together. Up until recently, he lived with Mom and helped her with her grocery shopping and other chores around the house that she can longer do. She misses him being there to talk to and help her.
My other brother, Tom, lives just up the hill a few hundred yards from her, and he checks on her daily. His wife, Cindy, also checks on her and brings her groceries, and medical prescriptions from the pharmacy. They also invite her to their home for meals. I really appreciate their help on that.
My sister, Linda, lives 50+ miles northeast in Fairbury, Ne. and works fulltime+ overtime at her job, so she isn't able to do much very often. She does call her every week though to visit, and comes down as often as she can get away.
There are numerous family members (cousins and nieces and nephews) who offer to help and stop by to see her occasionally. So she has a fairly good support system. My dad passed away years ago.
So yesterday, she had this doctor's appointment. After the appointment, she wanted to eat at the Dairy Queen, then she wanted to do some shopping, and following that, we stopped to visit one of her granddaughters at her job for a few minutes. Finally, we were on our way home to her house. She insisted I eat some watermelon with her, however, after she got me started eating my slice, she decided she didn't want any herself. It was probably all just contrived to keep me there with her. She admits to being lonely. So I ate watermelon, then I told her I had to get back home to get my own chores done.
I contacted my siblings and filled them in on what had happened at the appointment and a few other pertinent details about her care. We decided she was being a pickle. But I commented that once she is gone, we'd be wishing that "pickle" was back again. So we'll keep on keeping on with her and loving her as much as we can.
